OLD BARNEY

OLD BARNEY

Saturday, January 2, 2010

MY JENNY


I WOULD LIKE TO INTRODUCE YOU TO MY DAUGHTER, JENNIFER (JENNY.) SHE JUST TURNED 33 YEARS OLD ON DECEMBER 18, 2009. SHE WAS A DARLING LITTLE GIRL, SHE LOVED HER BABY DOLLS, SHE JOINED BALLET, PLAYED SOCCER, AND SHE LOVED TO BABY-SIT.
AFTER HIGH SCHOOL SHE WENT TO BURLINGTON COUNTY COLLEGE, SHE WANTED TO BE A CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST SO SHE SWITCH COLLEGES AND SHE DECIDED TO GO TO GEORGIAN COURT COLLEGE, IT WAS AN ALL GIRL CATHOLIC COLLEGE. IT WAS HIGHLY RATED, AND SUCH A BEAUTIFUL SCHOOL. THE GROUNDS WERE OUTSTANDING. THERE WERE GARDENS,LAKES, AND LOTS OF BEAUTIFUL STATUES. IT WAS SO RELAXING FOR THE STUDENTS.
WELL, SHE HAD A FEW MORE MONTHS BEFORE SHE GRADUATED, WHEN ON A STORMY MORNING ON HER WAY TO CLASS SHE HAD AN AUTO ACCIDENT. THE OTHER CAR HIT HER TWICE, THE ROADS WERE VERY DANGEROUS WITH THE WEATHER. SHE HAD HER SEAT BELT ON, BUT THE JARRING OF THE ACCIDENT SHOOK HER BACK AND FORTH. SHE DIDN'T BREAK ANY BONES, SHE HAD A TINY SCRATCH ON HER FACE.
WHEN MY DAUGHTER JACKIE AND I GOT TO THE TRAUMA CENTER SHE WAS IN A COMA AND HER CONDITION WAS VERY SERIOUS. WE WERE ALL IN SHOCK, LIKE I WAS DREAMING. IT WAS HOURS BEFORE THE DOCTORS NEW EXACTLY WHAT WAS GOING ON WITH JENNY. WELL, THE DOCTOR'S TOLD US IT WAS TBI (TRAUMATIC BRAIN INJURY.)
THEY REALLY DIDN'T THINK SHE WOULD MAKE IT THROUGH THE NIGHT, THERE WAS A LOT OF PRAYING THAT NIGHT. GOD HEARD US, AND SHE DID MAKE IT THROUGH THE NIGHT.
AFTER A FEW MONTHS IN A COMA, SHE STARTED WAKING UP, BUT WAS NOT AWARE OF ANYTHING, OR ANYONE.
THE DOCTOR'S COULDN'T DO ANYMORE FOR HER SO SHE WAS SENT TO VIRTUA REHAB CENTER. SHE NEEDED MORE HELP, SO I STARTED SEARCHING AND I FOUND MOSS REHAB, IN PHILADELPHIA, PA. AFTER PULLING A FEW STRINGS WE FINALLY GOT HER IN, BUT IT TOOK MONTHS. SHE STAYED AT MOSS FOR A WHILE, THEY DID A LOT OF TESTING, AND LOTS OF REHABILITATION. JENNY'S INJURY WAS IN THE LOWER PART OF HER BRAIN IN THE BACK. SOMETHING THAT COULDN'T BE FIXED. IT WAS VERY HARD TO HEAR THAT, BUT WE HAD TO ACCEPT IT, AND MOVE ON. SO SHE WAS SENT BACK TO VIRTUA, AND THEY WORKED WITH HER EVERYDAY, MOSS TAUGHT US HOW TO WORK WITH HER AND GIVE HER PHYSICAL THERAPY. THAT WENT ON FOR A WHILE, AND WE WANTED TO BRING HER HOME. SO MY DAUGHTER SAID "MOVE IN WITH US, WE'LL BUILD ON AND WE ALL CAN TAKE CARE OF JENNY." WELL THAT DAY DID COME, WE BUILT ON A BEAUTIFUL ROOM WITH LOTS OF WINDOWS, AND A SUN PORCH. JENNY HAS 5 NURSES THAT TAKES CARE OF HER. MY DAUGHTER JACKIE ALSO CARES FOR JENNY, SHE IS IN CHARGE OF ALL THE NURSES. IT'S NOT EASY TURNING JENNY, SHE IS DEAD WEIGHT, AND IT'S TO HARD FOR ME TO DO. BUT, I AM THERE FOR HER.






WHILE SHE WAS AT
MOSS SHE HAD MANY TESTS DONE, SHE IS IN A WHEELCHAIR, SHE CANNOT MOVE BY HERSELF, OR TALK , SHE DOES UNDERSTAND YOU, SHE WATCHES TV ALL THE TIME, THAT IS ONE THING SHE REALLY ENJOYS. SHE KNOWS WHEN THINGS ARE FUNNY, SAD, AND SHE LOVES TO LISTEN TO US TALK AND BRING BACK THE GOOD OLD DAYS, IF IT'S A FUNNY CONVERSATION SHE IS RIGHT THERE ENJOYING IT TOO. THANKS FOR STOPPING BY...............RIZZI

5 comments:

  1. Aunt Riz, what a beautiful collage of pictures of Jenny. Who does the collie belong to, is it Uncle Andy's?
    Love, Karen xoxo

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  2. Aunt Riz -- that was such a touching post and so beautifully written. I think of Jenny often, and wish I could make it back East more to see her. I imagine you love having her home with you, where she belongs. Love, Caroline

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  3. Hello Rizi darling, what a beautifully touching post. I am speechless, so lovely and young. I am so sorry for this misfortune in your lives. It is odd to say this considering her condition, but Jenny is a lucky girl to have a mother and a sister like you two, God bless you all. I am proud of all of you for taking charge and taking care of Jenny this way.

    Love & Hugs
    Duchess

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  4. Oh Rizi. I'm reading your blog posts backward (current first), I'm blown away at what you've been through. I hope I can say this correctly, the love in your family is beyond description. I'm sorry your family has been through so very much; but am so touched by how well they've done it. Even with all your loss, you must be very proud of your family.

    Hugs
    Sandy

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  5. DEAEST RIZZI,
    HAVING A CHILD PASS, AS YOU DID YOUR PRECIOUS SON, AND THEN HAVE JEN SUFFER SUCH INJURIES IN A CAR WRECK ALSO...IT IS UNIMAGINABLE. I MISSED THOSE 2 POSTS WHEN I WAS READING THROUGH YOUR BLOG.
    HOW BLESSED JEN IS TO HAVE YOU AND HER SISTER TO HELP MAKE SURE SHE GETS THE CARE SHE NEEDS.
    IT IS A LOVINGLY, AWESOME RESPONSIBILITY TO ASSUME CARE OF YOUR CHILD WHEN THE PHYSICAL NEEDS ARE SO GREAT, BUT YET YOU WOULD RATHER HAVE THEM HOME WITH YOU IN THEIR OWN SURROUNDINGS AND IT IS MUCH MORE COMFORTABLE FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY..
    I HAVE SUCH RESPECT AND ADMIRATION FOR YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY AND WISH I WAS A PART OF SUCH A LARGE GATHERING. I KNOW BY WHAT YOU POST, SOMETHING IS GOING ON ALL THE TIME.
    I AM HUGGING YOU REAL TIGHT AND I AM SO GLAD, GOD HAS BROUGHT YOU ACROSS MY PATH.
    YOU ARE AWESOME.
    I HOPE YOU SERIOUSLY CONSIDER THE ATC SWAP FOR AUGUST....I SAW A BEAUTIFUL ORANGE ROSE ON ONE OF YOUR POSTS THAT YOU BOUGHT FOR YOUR DAUGHTER.
    AND YOU CREATE SUCH BEAUTIFUL MERMAIDS. YOU ARE VERY TALENTED.
    HUGS
    SIMPLY DEBBIE

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